Ivette came to the Pregnancy Resource Center a few months after she found out she was pregnant with her fourth child. She was unemployed at the time and had no idea how she could care for another baby. She found hope, support, and wonderful friends at PRC.
This is her story in her own words.
My name is Ivette Rivera, and I am 26 years old. I have four kids: Lynette 7, my son Jacobie 6, my daughter Janette 3, and my youngest daughter Anamarie is 5 months. I’m considered a minority in many communities. I struggle every single day to make sure that all my children are taken care of. I have a minimum wage job and live paycheck to paycheck. My fiancé goes every morning to the unemployment office to find opportunities for employment, and he knows that I work hard and struggle.
I don’t have many friends I can trust and I can’t open up and express my feelings to family without being judged and talked about.
It’s hard to get help when you have as many children as I have. I try my very best every day to have a positive attitude for my children, putting a smile on my face for them to know that everything is going to be alright.
When I found out I was pregnant with my youngest daughter, I broke down in tears because I was unable to cope with another child.
I was unemployed at the time without anyone to turn to. We thought about our other options such as abortion or giving the baby up for adoption because we thought we didn’t have a way out.
I remember talking to my midwife, Ms. Edge, about how I was feeling. She gave me a pamphlet that read “The Pregnancy Resource Center.” I asked her, “What is this?” She told me to call the number and I would find some very nice people that could help me, and not to be afraid.
She heard it was a great non-profit organization that helps pregnant women and their families in their time of need.
She said I should think about what I was going to do because it was such a big decision. I was a little skeptical and I told her that people don’t want to help other people without getting anything in return. She told me to give it a chance and call. I waited a few months to call, 2 months to be exact because I was debating it.
I spoke to my fiancé and he convinced me to call and talk to someone about my feelings. I did, and I went to the Pregnancy Resource Center.
It was the best decision I had ever made.
When I arrived at the Pregnancy Resource Center for the first time I was a little scared because I didn’t know what to expect. I spoke to everyone and I felt so welcomed and special – I felt like I belonged there. There were many girls there when I arrived that were in my same situation. No one judged me and I feel like I have gained many friends. I learned that they offer great services to girls in need like me, from talking about problems, praying together, and helping me with baby items such as clothes, diapers, wipes, and other baby needs other people take for granted that I struggle so much to obtain.
They have different counselors that understand everybody is different and there are different situations.
One of the counselors that I communicate with best is Beth. I can talk to her about how I feel when we do the one-on-one Milestone Sessions. She understands me and she gives me good advice. She is so sweet and soft-spoken – she makes me feel welcomed and I trust her. The Pregnancy Resource Center has helped me so much. Ms. Anna is another great counselor that I can communicate well with. She is so sweet with a voice like an angel and she always looks so pretty. She is going to marry my fiancé and me.
The Pregnancy Resource Center offers pre-marital classes which is great. I look forward to my weekly sessions with Ms. Anna. I can talk to her about anything and feel comfortable that it stays confidential. My fiancé enjoys going to the pre-marital classes with me and they make him feel welcomed and he enjoys going and talking to them. I can definitely say that the Pregnancy Resource Center has helped me more than I can ever imagine.
They make it so much easier for me to continue and move forward. Without their support, knowledge, care, and prayer for my family I don’t know where I would be.
They lift my spirit because they really care and want to help. I have gained many lifetime friends and for that I am thankful. – Ivette Rivera